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The great publication Human Parts published an essay of mine called “Stuff,” which asks: When you break up with somebody, do you have to break up with the things they left behind, too?

I keep the little things. Movie stubs, silly notes, tchotchkes. Post-it doodles. Quarter toys in their gumball machine eggs. They mean something different — they aren’t attached to any holiday, or any obligation. They’re just, Hey, I was thinking about you.

Read “Stuff” on Human Parts

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New piece up on Medium about, well, stuff.

You hold onto stuff from your exes, right? Serious exes, I mean. Girlfriends, boyfriends, relationships. But not serious stuff, necessarily. Not Valentine’s Day and Christmas and birthday presents. Those are the things you sort of have to keep. It’s in the social contract, I think.

I’m talking about the little things. I keep the little things. Movie stubs, silly notes, tchotchkes. Post-it doodles. Quarter toys in their gumball machine eggs. They mean something different — they aren’t attached to any holiday, or any obligation. They’re just, Hey, I was thinking about you.

Read “Stuff” on Medium

 

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A short story about technology (kinda) and relationships (mostly).

“It’s called ‘Countdown,’” says Brian. He looks away from his phone to smile at the bartender as she hands him another beer, then looks back at us. “It’s free.”

He turns the screen towards us and — I hate to say this — it actually looks cute. The cartoon clock, with little clock arms and clock legs, and one hand on his clock hip. “Countdown” is plastered in colorful letters at the top of the screen.

Read “Last Call” on Medium

Two friends in New York – designers Jessica Walsh and Timothy Goodman – found themselves single at the same time. Tim was concerned about his “inability to commit”; Jessica wondered why “all [her] relationships keep failing. To confront these issues and learn more about love and dating, they decided to date for 40 days:

It’s been said that it takes 40 days to change a bad habit. In an attempt to explore and hopefully overcome their fears and inadequacies, Tim and Jessica will go through the motions of a relationship for the next 40 days: the commitment, time, companionship, joys and frustrations. Can they help each other, or will they fall into their same habits? Will they damage their friendship? What if they fall in love?

While this may seem, on the surface, like a premise for a romantic comedy, the honesty that Jessie and Tim bring to the project is touching and fascinating. At the end of every day they answered a list of questions – What’d you do? Did you learn anything about yourself? How do you feel about the relationship/project? – including drawings, pictures, and even screenshots of text messages and emails they exchanged.

They stopped posting updates on Day 36, just shy of the (revelatory, transformative?) 40-day deadline, but there’s a new video on the site promising updates after Labor Day. Take some time to read their beautiful account of love, frustration and modern courtship before they return – hopefully with some kind of happy ending.

“40 Days of Dating” by Jessica Walsh & Timothy Goodman